Wearing them hats …

No one is a hat person until they wear one!

No one knows what to do until they actually do it.

To know about something and to know something are two different things.

I thought hat was for people who could tell you where lip balm is at any given point of time — you know, organized enough to have just enough enthusiasm to put a hat on.

OR

For pictures ..

But 2019 summer happened ..

Fact: I started wearing a hat this summer because my skincare costs too much time/effort for me to not wear a hat. And, #AtlantaHeat ☀️ #sunprotection is wise while enjoying the sunshine.

So, I bought a hat at Francescas and my plan was to wear it as I walked the outdoor mall. As the cashier at Francesca was charging my card I asked her “so, what do people do? .. if I am wearing my hat and walk into stores, do I just leave it on or hold it awkwardly in my hand? — it’s not even sunny inside the store, you know”

I bet she thought that this one is going to return the hat! So, she smiled and said “You look cute in it. Wear it!”

Thank you Francesca girl, I do think I look cute in too and I wear it. AND I bought another hat too.

Life is much like this .. we don’t know what we don’t try. If you want to try something, let this post be your Francescas girl – just try. If not the whole experience try a tiny version of it.

Fact: 5yrs ago, when I was pregnant, someone asked me what part of the experience I am most petrified about .. I recall answering “the fact that THEY think it’s cool to send me home with this new baby without THEM being around” They/Them = The medical staff obviously!

Spoiler alert: It’s working out with the baby – a bit early to tell though!

This hat is from Target and sorry Francescas, I don’t have a picture in my gateway hat from your store. One day ..

Also, turns out .. I just may have been a hat person.

I was positive but not inclusive ..

🤷🏽‍♀️ It is safe to say that I have yet to style myself the same way I style myself IN MY HEAD. ⁣⁣
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Especially if you are someone who is aware, negatively, of your body then I know you are nodding a resounding YAS!⁣⁣
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💯 I love an oversized sweater (& hugs) I also love a skirt.I love a styled look! But I keep that styling limited to my bathroom mirror selfies. ⁣⁣
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I have been body positivity for a long time – for others, not myself! 💯⁣⁣
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So, I decided to change that because I don’t like it. And I like me. So, I included myself. ⁣AND I posted a pic of me without shoes, I know! ⁣

🙌🏽 TIP: When styling with oversize top with a structured bottom a little front tuck goes a long way – If you want to try. And, the bit of tuck is not just for women. Men, try it. ⁣

⁣Regardless of your gender what is that one thing that you are positive about but not inclusive? What are you doing to change it? ⁣⁣

🎤 Positivity is great but inclusivity is impactful! ⁣

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Share your story in comments to inspire! I would love to read them 🙏🏼 ⁣⁣ 📸 Post your styling pic with hashtag #bodypositivestyleinclusive & don’t forget to tag @thebirdwhoswam

The audacity of Me ..

Audacity: A willingness to take a bold risk.

All of us take risks every single day in our life – sometimes we succeed and sometimes we learn. Sometimes it’s mostly a failure. We start all over again.

🗣 Own what is yours!

It’s Mental Health Day today!

Your future is being worked on, are you participating?

We all want an empowering, thriving, innovative, equal, peaceful, healthy & wealthy future.

🗣 Then WE all need to make an effort. Personal, Professional & Civic!

At the least – don’t mock or hinder someone/something that is making an effort towards the future that you so very much want.

Diplomatic Distance

There is no need to burn the bridge. Just find closure within and take a detour ♥️

Sometimes by creating a diplomatic distance  you allow yourself to view the positives of the people and the situation rather than the constant stream of negatives.

A choice is made .. the ‘how is it made’ depends on your choice.

It’s a choice.

It was always a choice.

It will always be a choice.

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🗣 If you make the choice, then you get to guide the experience.

If the choices force you to make the choice, then the choices will guide the experience.

Share the thought 🙌🏽

These unpleasant memories …

Life is unavoidable!

Hindsight is always 20/20!!

🎤 And, I have yet to meet anyone, including myself, who has forgotten an unpleasant experience. With time there could be detachment and maybe forgiveness, if at all.

♥️ Let’s not fool ourselves and maybe fight the fight that is worth it because they are all memories.

For all my extrovert-ness these things are ridiculously hard ..

For all my extrovert-ness the few things that I find ridiculously difficult are:

🗣 Asking for help – and it’s not a lack of need. Because who doesn’t need help!

🗣 Self Promotion – my resume is a sorry example of that.

🗣 Taking a compliment, especially in person – it’s almost as if I need a credited institution to validate my dry shampoo skills so that I can accept ‘your hair looks great today!’

🗣 Seeing my own worth – I have no quip here because if I start on this, it will turn into a book.

Is it ego at play or need of control or am I just wired that way? Who knows, but it needs to change and I am taking actionable steps!!

And, no I don’t think being an extrovert or an introvert automatically makes the above possible. It’s was my perception that the above may come organic to me as being an extrovert.

😳 It took me only 30days of contemplation before I ‘invited’ family & friends to ‘Like’ my page. And, the push that made me do it was my self-thought of ‘well, I don’t want I spam my personal page with my posts all the time so whoever wants to read my work will ‘Like’ with the Facebook page or better yet will subscribe to the blog’

🗣 This amazing Kathleen Taylor artwork speaks to me – I am a science & signs person – and I spotted it at the cutest store wild oats and billy goats. This will be in my office one day, I will buy it! Because ..

It’s a bird and the message is what I need.

Do you struggle with owning the intangible? How do you go about it? Share some tips in comments .. all of us could use it! ♥️